I have friends online that I have never met. And when I do meet them in the flesh (as happened last week at the Sydney Writers Centre meet-up for my writerly peeps,) they are every bit as lovely as I imagined.
Many of these friendships have formed through a kind of courtship online played out on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. Maybe it's the anonymity of the online world, but it's easier to share thoughtfully while at home with a bowl of almonds and a heater and snug slippers on, than it is while standing in the school yard with three backpacks on and carrying a trumpet.
I like heart felt, I like deep, I always have. I'm the kind of person who is useless at small talk but if you meet me at a function I'll bury you in a sea of "what's your favourite memory" or "what country do you desperately want to visit in your life time". And once you're trapped, I'll dig deeper until you'll regret ever wandering over in my direction. That's especially the case if the waiter with the drinks tray has strayed past me a couple of times as well.
But the joy of online is that you can find all kinds of specialness. We have so many fabulous "projects" that have been embraced such as Fatmumslim's hugely popular "Photo A Day" challenge, the various grateful projects, and the many other activities online that encourage you to dig a little deeper inside yourself and share with the world, what you think or feel or see.
And yes, I agree, don't just save this for the online world, share this generous, thoughtful you with your everyday world as well, don't keep this you a secret.
Sometimes The Husband come homes and my peaceful writing cocoon I live in during school hours is a distant memory with me ferrying my kids to various playdates, sports and music activities, he gets the dregs. I struggle amongst the clutter of dinner and homework and fighting and keeping kids off the electronics to remember this feeling of calm and special thoughts. We talk the mundane and the practical when I really want to share the nice stuff, not the ordinary.
So there is my challenge - to take my special and bring it into my normal. To share this me with the me that my world sees.
Do you live a double life? How have you brought your special into your normal?