Monday, April 22, 2013

Follow your bliss


When I was growing up I wanted to be an archeologist, I have no idea why and thankfully for those in the archeological industry, that passion died a quiet death when I was probably about 8.  My kids all have their own dreams of what they're going to be.  One wanted to be a builder (but I'd put big money on him doing something that involves rulers and measuring and calculating distances - maybe he'll design a large bridge or structure one day for his mother who loves large structures), one is planning on being a palaeontologist or a policeman, and one has moved on from being a policeman to being a pilot.

As a parent, you kind of hear this background noise of "when I grow up..." and you nod and make all the right noises although you quietly know the passion will die like mine and they'll end up going to university, doing a business degree and then doing some kind of business job, that has them trudging in to the city and their desk on the 6.20am bus each morning.  Or not.

You see, the 'pilot" gig has been hanging on tightly, it's not dulling, nor quietening.  If anything but.  He talks about it widely.  His collection of toy planes still holds pride of place on his pre-teen shelf of special things.

We went away this last weekend down to the South Coast of NSW.  We saw a sign for an aviation museum, and even though my son's eyes jumped out of his head, The Husband and I made murmuring like "if it works mate we can come back".  It wasn't prioritised.  It just hang there as a "maybe".  While visiting a lighthouse the next day, we got chatting with a helpful person working there.  We asked about things to do in the area, and he started talking about the aviation museum.  It was a grotty day, it wasn't far out of our way, and we quietly decided to go there for the last couple of hours in the day.  As we drove, our sons dozed off, and as we pulled into the carpark, my eldest woke up and was almost running before we'd even stopped the car.  And for the next joyous couple of hours he wandered and read, and looked, and then did it all over again.  And as he did this The Husband and I had a revelation.  Maybe this actually is a "something", maybe this isn't going to slip quietly into the childhood memory bank.  Maybe this is real.  And if it is maybe we need to be taking this passion, and our son, more seriously than what we have been.

There were some young airforce cadets about his age at the museum as well.  As any 12 year old does, he looked at them side on, not making eye contact, but tucking away some information. I sidled up to my son "Would you like to do that mate?  Shall we research it a bit?".  And he's only stopped asking now that we're home and have sent an email to our (thankfully) local airforce cadet base.  On our way home we saw a sign for a air show in the next 2 weeks, thats on a train route only 2 and a bit hours from home.  "I might bring him down to that", I whispered to my husband, we had a quick chat about logistics and agreed it was doable for my fella and me to come down so he could gaze at planes.

Because regardless of age or what your passion is, it's important to follow your bliss.  And when you're a child, sometimes you need the help of others to know how to do that.  And the fire we can see in our son's eyes makes everything worthwhile.

Have you followed your bliss or helped anyone else to follow theirs?

I'm doing mine right now.




6 comments:

  1. I cannot agree more, I always tell my kids that work will always seem like fun if they pursue their passion (though I should practice what I preach). Our 10 yr old son is absolutely obsessed with playing soccer (and loves all sports) and even watches old matches on video that he competed in. He knows that what ever he does when he grows up it will definitely have something to do with sport. I wish I had his passion.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Passion = determination doesn't it? It must be reassuring to know that in some way or form your son will make it happen and will live his dream. Thanks as always for your thought Becci

      Delete
  2. I really enjoyed this post. I say let them dream! Mine (who is only five) wants to be a Ninja. And who am I to discourage from such a noble career choice. Of course, a month ago he wanted to be a clown and before that was the phase when he wanted to be a snake doctor! Whatever his 'thing' is I will never stifle his dreams (Unless of course he goes through a serial killer or politician phase!) :-)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Haha, there is such a big demand for Ninjas too. My youngest is torn between entomologist or policeman, I'm sure he'll create some hybrid of the two. We need our younger mentors to pass on to those older, the joyousness of not holding back on dreams or trying to make them too earnest. Says someone who decided to be a lawyer when she left school because it had a job title that people recognised. Thankfully that uncharacteristic blip lasted only 2 years.

      Delete
  3. My philosophy with kids is to help them explore any area of interest - even if it turns out to be a passing fad. I try not to think of it as "maybe one day they will do this as a job" - it's more about helping them learn about the world we live in, as directed by their interests. With things like after school activities or sports, I just ask that they put in a term. I don't want our kids to feel like they have let anyone down if it doesn't turn out to be for them. How will they know if they don't give it a go? We have quite the collection of sporting/extra-curricular 'outfits' as testament to this practice :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Love this! Would you mind if I delete my blog post and replace it with this instead? And I am stealing the "just put in a term" message too, especially while trying to convince one son he needs to go to a soccer academy on Monday nights in the middle of winter! Thanks for stopping by!

      Delete