Thursday, November 7, 2013
From the mouths of babes
I've been surrounded by teenage boys of late. I'm researching a book concept, and have been working with my big fella's school, talking to gorgeous young men/boys, asking them what they'd say to a younger version of themselves.
My first takeout has been - this is humbling
My second - I want to be that age again and do it all over but so much smarter
My third takeout - I want my boys to be like these boys.
We talk about the benefit of hindsight, of wishing we knew something back then that we know now. So we could have done things differently or paid more attention, or experienced that moment more. And I get that.
I would have let go a little more in my life. I think I regret my restraint, and don't get me wrong I danced on the tables with the best of them, but I think I was too conservative in my approach to life. There was a lovely saying by a lovely reader of The Collective (and seriously if there is ever a magazine that I read word for word, cover to cover, it's this one).
It was Dream Big.
I'm actually dreaming bigger now than I ever have before. Thank friggin god it's not too late to. But I've just stumbled on this by accident and with a little help from serendipity. Maybe I should be talking to older women now and ask them what they regret not doing at my age, and then start doing it.
The boys comments were spine tinglingly awesome. So awesome that I rang my husband straight away with a quivering voice, recounting some of the gems. "We need to get this in from of our boy", he said. "He needs to hear this". And he does and he will.
And out of the mouths of young men come wisdom that can be applied to any age. If these boys are tomorrows leaders, I'm ok with that...
Don't waste time doing nothing - go and hang out with your friends instead
Don't hold back - take every opportunity that you can, try different things
Be more confident
Don't be an idiot, make the right choices
Remain a kid while you can
Make memories, so you can pull them out and look at them in the future.
Do you love these messages from 17 year old's to 13 year olds?
What would you do differently with the benefit of hindsight?
Are you dreaming big and making the most of the now?
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