Tuesday, June 19, 2012
When you're out walking with your other half, do you naturally, without thought, hold each others hand, lovingly? Willingly?
Maybe it's my hand, or maybe it's the other halves I've chosen, but I can only get a hand hold if I've locked the other hand in a vice like grip, or if it's dark and noone can see us. The total time of the hand hold is hmmm, maybe 15 seconds, and as my hand is released, I sense a gush of relief coming from The Husband as if "phew, that's done and dusted for another 3 weeks or until she remembers and whinges again".
Yesterday I saw an old couple walking ahead of me holding hands. I think that one of my favourite sights (after my kids, storms coming, big waves.....) is seeing an old couple who are clearly adoring of each other, walking along holding hands.
I often whine in a irritating whiney voice at The Husband "I want us to be a couple who walk along the road holding hands when we're old, without thinking about it and with both of us wanting to be". He always agrees, but what I really am meaning is "the start date is now Bucko, not like when we're "old", we have to practice this gig as CLEARLY it doesn't come naturally to us".
Because even though we may adore our partners and show our love in different less tactile ways, our ultimate goal is to grow old together right? And I'm sure many of us said this in our wedding speeches. But isn't there there something a little special about a relationship where you still need to touch each other and feel that connection through skin on skin, even when that skin is a little bit more wrinkly.
Are you a "hand holder"?